Focusing on the wonderful qualities of your family members or friends, creates appreciation for them.  If the relationship doesn’t feel good or loving, it’s time to evaluate the situation. Change your perception, show gratitude to others in your family.  Try to communicate, collaborate, offer solutions to the situation, or change it.  This requires allowing vulnerability, self-evaluation, and courage to communicate with honesty with self and others in your life. If our sincere effort is not appreciated, forgive, and move on.  If there is abuse, if you are being taken for granted, love yourself enough to stop allowing it.  Remove yourself from the toxicity.  If you are in a good place, count your blessings with appreciation and gratitude every day!