Become aware of the words you speak. Speak with kindness and support of others and this is what comes back to you.  If there are negative comments or emotions directed toward you, simply don’t accept what is said.  It does not serve you. If you direct destructive words toward others, that’s what you receive! 

Negative destructive expressions are truly deep wounded feelings of the offender who in reality is self-loathing in negativity.  Example:  A man picks a fight with his wife and tells her “You’re so stupid, you bought the wrong type of milk” He’s placing blame and belittling her because he’s looking to make himself feel better.  This type of behavior is all he knows. It is not acceptable.  He was probably raised this way. This is deep insecurity in which his own childhood needs were not met or perhaps a trauma in his life that is unresolved.  The wife can simply respond by saying: “Pay attention to what you are saying, because I don’t deserve to be treated that way.  We can get another carton of milk.”